When we experience a negative emotion, such as prejudice, we must take a moment and examine that emotion with a magnifying glass. What triggered the initial emotional response? Then we must weigh our perception up against the objective reality. Are we acting upon a past experience or a fear rather than what is right in front of us? Is the negative emotion a defensive response against something we have assessed as being a threat based on past experiences or what we have been told by others?

Examining an emotion in full honesty, calmly, respectfully and openmindedly, in ourselves and in others, is a way of saying: “we are all human beings, experiencing negative emotions is not bad, it’s just a part of life, of being human, but I am not the emotion and I choose not to act upon it.”

Choosing to use our intellect to learn from our emotional responses instead of suppressing them is a more mature way of dealing with negative emotions and it will make us more compassionate and not so quick to judge others.

9 thoughts on “Prejudice

  1. I feel it is not the intellect that helps us out in these situations. It is an emotional resonance with how our experiences have played out that posit a potentially powerful witness to all where instead of taking anything personally, we understand expressions are most often a person’s expression-confession of themselves. In which they are actually presenting an ask. An ask for help to hear the trauma’s message so it can relax from its origin — trauma is fresh, doesn’t anger or evolve, though can devolve over losing periods, decades, to erode and become angrier and Angie result. Traumas feeling abandonment for THEM peeling off or being ejected or ejecting AT the time of the trauma? Yes. And, they are to be listened to in their entirety. Their message prior to re-integrating will never come f they are not held in high regard, without shaming them or looking away, and only then when they are heard some the ability to ask, “What is your message? What is your wisdom?” When that occurs, one might feel an ablution cascade of tingles in a particular part of the body or across the whole as they then dose ourself with more of ourself that has re-surfaced and is ready to find it’s re-home place within us.

  2. Yes. And, that is one of the principle tenets of Brainspotting. “That which angers you, controls you.” Further, Trauma is always fresh. It’s been there in the same form, in the same world of the trauma, since it peeled off or was blown off to lessen the pressure and preclude one’s overload. Though, when each trauma returns, it is to be addressed on Silence, powerfully witnessing t knowing that it has its own needs of de-pressurizing prior to wonderfully dosing ourself with its particular more of ourself.

    De-inter-leaving the reaction-response when triggered posits an internal welcome and thank you for the anger, the rage, the whatever the mode any particular trauma presents with. The trauma has a wise message for you once it acclimated to trust you again. It protected you in the 1st place by peeling or being blown off. And now, it’s being asked to be the bigger person by extending the wisdom of YOU To YOU from where it’s been since then after proactively hitting the eject button to protect you.

    It’s not words that will engage a trauma. It’s a powerful witness to hear and allow it’s stomping around until it settles to… to turn… to turn and, “Ok, (insert primary trauma identity statement).” Example: “I don’t dissolve.” …before the trauma re-homes and provides those ablution tingles in a certain part of the body or across the whole….

    Guess that was simply the tip of the iceberg in regards to trauma and Brainspotting, though at least the tip of the iceberg presents itself on the internal radar then………..

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