Making other people happy

Making other people happy is an easy way to make yourself happy, but when we strain ourselves too much, when we use other people’s happiness to forget about our pain, when there is an imbalance between input and output, it can be harmful to our health and cause an addictive behavioral pattern where you become dependent on others for your happiness. Trying too hard to please others can cause stress-related illnesses as much as a high-pressure job can.

Taking care of your own needs is not selfish it is healthy! Yes, some of us have different needs than others, like much needed alone-time, long moments of silence, a lot of rest, etc. that can sometimes irritate people who can’t relate to it. But we need to take care of our special needs anyway and ignore those who try to make us feel bad for being the way we are. Imagine if you don’t take care of your needs and come down with a stress-related illness that ends you up in hospital. Most likely those same people will come to you saying: “Why didn’t you just speak up for yourself and tell us what you needed?”

Everyone wants to be the cause of someone else’s happiness, but no one wants to be the cause of someone else’s pain. When you don’t take care of your own needs and don’t speak up for yourself you unintentionally put someone in that position. And that, I imagine, if you are anything like me, is the last thing you want.

23 thoughts on “Making other people happy

  1. True Trini! Sometimes I feel I’m selfish about my happiness that I involve so much in making other’s feel happy. The whole thing leaves me so confused and drained πŸ˜’

  2. While it’s very important to take care of other people, you are right we need to give ourselves some care too, lest we get burned out and even become resentful of the people we’re caring for

  3. Very well said Trini.
    I did not know that for years and I became dependant. I forgot my needs and the fall was tough.
    We all have needs and they ought to be taken care of.
    We must be our priority at some stage. And when we do, we become more free for others and happiness can be shared again!

  4. Well said Trini, we do indeed create the thing we least want. But it will guide us inward to repair what blocks our light. It may end up being a little too bright for some others but it will be a God send in any darkness πŸ˜€ ❀️ πŸ™πŸ½ πŸ¦‹

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