No matter the smallness and ugliness of that life.
Imagine a comet hitting earth, leaving only a hundred people alive. Would it really matter how each of these individuals looked? They would go from being citizens of a nation, subscribers to a creed and carriers of an ethnicity to becoming our fellow human beings. Now, aren’t that what we are today as well?
Let us not wait for a threat to humanity to realize this shared bond. All that matters is the here and now. Let’s grab hold of the Present and shape it to become what it should and could be if we all realized our beautiful and unique individuality AND our common bond of humanity.
They say no man is an island, but I often think that we actually are all little independent islands; 6 billion islands connected together in a rich and diverse archipelago by little bridges constructed by our shared humanity evolved through hundreds of thousands of years of sharing the same habitat. Wouldn’t it be amazing to explore each and everyone of these islands!? Imagine the different flora and fauna! How extraordinary! 6 billion unique islands all within reach of each other through a bond of kinship! What could be more beautiful!
Through quiet and attentive observation of the turn of the seasons, the moods of the sea and the life span of a flower, the universal truths will reveal themselves. The same holds true of human nature. By quietly and openmindedly observing the comings and goings of your own emotions and impulses, you will recognize the reflection of all human emotions and impulses within yourself.
When we experience a negative emotion, such as prejudice, we must take a moment and examine that emotion with a magnifying glass. What triggered the initial emotional response? Then we must weigh our perception up against the objective reality. Are we acting upon a past experience or a fear rather than what is right in front of us? Is the negative emotion a defensive response against something we have assessed as being a threat based on past experiences or what we have been told by others?
Examining an emotion in full honesty, calmly, respectfully and openmindedly, in ourselves and in others, is a way of saying: “we are all human beings, experiencing negative emotions is not bad, it’s just a part of life, of being human, but I am not the emotion and I choose not to act upon it.”
Choosing to use our intellect to learn from our emotional responses instead of suppressing them is a more mature way of dealing with negative emotions and it will make us more compassionate and not so quick to judge others.
Sensitivity opens you up to creativity, empathy and imagination, but it also opens you up to a whole range of emotions that other people just don’t have the capacity to feel. Emotions are on high volume all the time. It can be extremely frustrating and cause feelings of anxiety, loneliness and depression. Connecting with other Highly Sensitive People can be a great comfort. But sometimes it is hard to be understood and taken seriously by other non-HSPs. Who of us haven’t heard the phrase: just pull yourself together, or: can’t you just control your emotions.
It is of vital importance that we all respect each other’s differences and listen to each other. Yes, we are all human, but what does that really mean? Humans are extremely complex beings, and that is, in my opinion, what makes us so interesting. Be open to this complexity, be willing learn and meet each individual with openness of heart and mind. Not everyone is like you, in fact, there is no one like you at all, and that is what makes you so uniquely interesting and important. And that is what makes each individual so uniquely interesting and important. It is time we start treating each other as such: as complex, beautiful and fascinating individuals.