Most of us are influenced by the environment around us, some of us more than others, when that influence become negative we can feel overwhelmed and that can lead to a chemical imbalance in our bodies which we can experience as headache and/or upset stomach etc. We react to this imbalance by feeling disconnected and conflicted. These emotions are then processed cognitively and we might experience thoughts like: “Is there something wrong with me?”, “Is this my fault?” , “Is it just me who doesn’t fit in?”. When we allow thoughts like this to take over we reinforce the chemical imbalance and our internal conflict in our bodies leading to physical and mental symptoms of discomfort. This can become a negative spiral leading to depression.
We can’t always control our environment nor can we shut off our emotional reactions, but what we can do is change the cognitive process, or the way we think, so that instead of reinforcing the chemical imbalance in our bodies and the negative feelings we can stop them in their tracks and neutralize them with positive self-talk and self-soothing techniques.
Don’t build a dam around it, let the rivers run wild and they will always find their way back to the ocean, a little wiser, a little more compassionate, after tenderly shaping mountains into valleys. Eventually it is the river that remains the same and the harsh rock that is forever altered.
They say we all live with scars, but some of us live with open wounds that never truly heal, they flare up sometimes and bleed all over again. But we learn to accept them as part of who we are. It is possible to feel happiness, to take joy and to laugh out loud while still living with wounds with nothing but a couple of self-sewn stitches to prevent them from splitting apart anew.
The only thing you need to do to feel loved is to let yourself feel loved, not by anyone, but in and of its own, and that is the only love that can be truly unconditional. Lock this knowledge in your heart and it will be a perpetually shining light even in the thickest darkness, like a seed covered in winter snow it will be your hope when the world is cold reminding you of who you are and of your truest nature.
Love does not need a giver or receiver to exist, nor does it need to be manifested. Love is a gift to humanity, but it does not need humanity. Love needs nothing but itself, it gives of itself to itself, yet it does not need to be received for there is no space in which it does not exist.