Have faith in your subconscious, if you ask it to do something for you, it will. You need only ask, go about your day as usual and a few days later the answer to your question will pop into your consciousness effortlessly as though it was already there all this time just waiting for you to ask the right question.
Being socialized into a culture is in many ways a way to force your personality and innate nature to adjust to your surroundings. A lot of beauty and creativity can be lost in this process. Figuring out who you are as an adult is often about reclaiming that lost beauty and creativity. Maybe that is why so many of us travel to foreign cultures to find ourselves, for in the process of traveling we discover that the “system of thought” we have been socialized into as children is not the only way of life worthwhile.
Being able to adjust to a situation and to people around you is a great quality! In fact, Darwin’s theory of “the survival of the fittest” has been revised to “survival of the most adjustable.” However, don’t adjust so much to situations and people that you lose who you are and eventually end up being dominated by forces taking advantage of your accommodative nature.
Don’t build a dam around it, let the rivers run wild and they will always find their way back to the ocean, a little wiser, a little more compassionate, after tenderly shaping mountains into valleys. Eventually it is the river that remains the same and the harsh rock that is forever altered.
Your soul is the only search engine you’ll ever need. Within its database lies all the possible information about your self; your physical being, your mind, your emotions and your humanity, as well as the history of the whole universe from its very birth.