Most of us are influenced by the environment around us, some of us more than others, when that influence become negative we can feel overwhelmed and that can lead to a chemical imbalance in our bodies which we can experience as headache and/or upset stomach etc. We react to this imbalance by feeling disconnected and conflicted. These emotions are then processed cognitively and we might experience thoughts like: “Is there something wrong with me?”, “Is this my fault?” , “Is it just me who doesn’t fit in?”. When we allow thoughts like this to take over we reinforce the chemical imbalance and our internal conflict in our bodies leading to physical and mental symptoms of discomfort. This can become a negative spiral leading to depression.
We can’t always control our environment nor can we shut off our emotional reactions, but what we can do is change the cognitive process, or the way we think, so that instead of reinforcing the chemical imbalance in our bodies and the negative feelings we can stop them in their tracks and neutralize them with positive self-talk and self-soothing techniques.
The only thing you need to do to feel loved is to let yourself feel loved, not by anyone, but in and of its own, and that is the only love that can be truly unconditional. Lock this knowledge in your heart and it will be a perpetually shining light even in the thickest darkness, like a seed covered in winter snow it will be your hope when the world is cold reminding you of who you are and of your truest nature.
Your worthiness of love has nothing to do with how many people love you or how deeply loved you are. It exists entirely on its own, unneeding of anyone to acknowledge it, including yourself. It can not diminish nor increase because it is immeasurable in its immaterial infinity.
Sensitivity opens you up to creativity, empathy and imagination, but it also opens you up to a whole range of emotions that other people just don’t have the capacity to feel. Emotions are on high volume all the time. It can be extremely frustrating and cause feelings of anxiety, loneliness and depression. Connecting with other Highly Sensitive People can be a great comfort. But sometimes it is hard to be understood and taken seriously by other non-HSPs. Who of us haven’t heard the phrase: just pull yourself together, or: can’t you just control your emotions.
It is of vital importance that we all respect each other’s differences and listen to each other. Yes, we are all human, but what does that really mean? Humans are extremely complex beings, and that is, in my opinion, what makes us so interesting. Be open to this complexity, be willing learn and meet each individual with openness of heart and mind. Not everyone is like you, in fact, there is no one like you at all, and that is what makes you so uniquely interesting and important. And that is what makes each individual so uniquely interesting and important. It is time we start treating each other as such: as complex, beautiful and fascinating individuals.
There are countless shadows
Tangled with the spring’s unbroken green
And you are the light-stemmed ripple,
The sway that unties dreams,
Without the strive or turmoil
But with the weariness of heart
Your thirst remains unkindled
Yet the rain is never far.
It lashes the restless beauty,
But the world cares only for stars.
So chasers walk by the edge of day
Refusing to sip the night,
While divers swim through the darkest skies
To speak for those whose lips are dry
And bear storms to feed the unseen light.